Taking Responsibility For Your Triggers
What triggers you into an emotional response? What are you triggered by? Why are you being triggered by? How can you heal from being triggered? How can you heal triggers? How can you take responsibility for triggers? Why do other people continue to trigger you?
In episode 45 of Love Always, Self, we discussed emotional triggers and how it’s our responsibility for learning about our triggers, understanding our triggers, how to heal what is being triggered, and how to ask for support while you are reprogramming these reactions.
We each have our thing (or things) that cause us to move into a space of defensiveness, anger, fear, or any other word representative of a heightened emotional state; a reactive state. These are your triggers; a-snap-you-back-into-that-lower-vibrational state triggers.
It may seem easiest to point fingers of blame and responsibility towards others, asking them to stop doing whatever it is that continues to trigger you. But this isn’t addressing the root cause of what triggers you into emotionally reactive states of being and you can’t ask every single person you interact with to avoid doing the thing that triggers you. This isn’t healing, but rather placing the responsibility of not triggering you onto someone else; you are asking them to not be themselves for you and to walk on eggshells around you, so to speak.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to let go of those triggers rather than just trying to avoid being triggered?
Obviously! Or maybe not so obvious. Because it’s definitely not easy. Not everything easy is worth the work, just as not everything that is worth the work is easy. Yes, work. Shadow work, inner child work, work to heal the wound or trauma that initiated the need to be triggered into a survival state.
Have you caught onto why you are being triggered, yet?
Many triggers are established from a need to survive, the need to protect yourself from harm. Triggers are your Ego coming forward to say, “I need to defend your being because past experiences have taught me this is a threat.” There are reasons triggers have been placed into your psyche; this information may lay waiting to be discovered as you reconnect with your inner child and provide healing to old wounds and programs.
It is our responsibility to learn about our triggers, their root causes. It is our responsibility to learn how to respond in different, more loving and healing ways, towards ourselves, towards situations, and towards others. Responsibility can at first feel like a heavy and loaded word in its misrepresented form of “taking on the burdens of the world.” However, when we turn our head slightly and adjust our perspective of this word, it provides us with transformative power.
I completed the Inner Engineering Program led by Sadhguru, a proponent of spirituality, at the end of 2019. I find it helpful to look at the word “responsibility” through Sadhguru’s eyes, as “response-ability. This can help us to better understand our capacity to choose what ability we have to respond to a situation. Responsibility, simply put, is your ability to respond.
It may be helpful to communicate what you are trying to do, heal and reprogram old patterns and limiting beliefs, with those you live with or share space and lives with. When we share this information, it’s ok to ask for patience and compassion from the other person, but first and foremost this should be coming from you for yourself. Learn to love yourself through these changes, practicing patience with yourself as you de-program old patterns, have compassion and understanding with yourself that you are human and you will continue to make more mistakes and mistakes are simply just opportunities to continue to learn and practice.
Of course,what better person to present you with triggering situations, where you can practice reprogramming your reactions to triggering stimuli, than the people you trust most, that love you unconditionally, and those you feel safe with.
Just don’t expect others to carry the burden of your triggers; they have their own to deal with, and at the end of the day, you are the one that can do the work for you.
Here are some reflection questions to get you started in learning about how to be aware of not only your triggers, but of yourself and how you are reacting vs responding:
Reflection Questions
How This Supports Healing Triggers
What triggers you to feel defensive any given day?
Assessing the surface triggers.
What about this is triggering you?
Looking at the triggers from different angles. Using more descriptive words to learn more about the detailed aspects of the triggers.
Reflect deeper. What are your first memories of this trigger?
Diving deeper to try to locate the deeper roots that may have initiated your now triggers.
What is your ability to respond to a trigger? Rather than react.
Assessing your current ability and readiness to practice transitioning to respond to a trigger vs reacting.
What do you notice about the trigger when you zoom out?
Reflecting on other aspects that may contribute to this trigger can help you to see more of the roots of this trigger.
How would you like to feel in response to a trigger?
Beginning to map out your new path of responding to old triggers. Encourages you to refocus on what you would like to experience going forward.
How would I like to see myself responding vs reacting to a trigger stimulus?
This allows you to start seeing yourself in the action phase of reprogramming old patterns.
See yourself in a triggering situation. Can you visualize yourself choosing to respond to the trigger stimulus that feels good?
Allows you to Implement new patterns without placing yourself in the triggering situation. You are practicing the work before being tested.
You can watch the full episode on this topic here:
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Episode Suggestions:
Episode 41: What Causes Judgment Towards Yourself and Others?
Episode 33: How Reflections of Self Help Us Grow w/Channeling a New Guide Leopold
Episode 31: Connect w/Source by Connecting w/Self
Episode 30: Creating A System of Magic
Episode 27: Are You A Victim of Your DNA?
Episode 21: Is It Spiritual or Is It Science? // A Correlation Between Science and Spirituality
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